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Post by cricket on Jul 2, 2019 16:37:39 GMT
Recently I found out a friend I had trusted and loved for many years ,is very much not a friend at all.There have been other persons on site recently who have unexpectedly found smiles conceal back stabbers.How do we cope.Why do people do this?
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Post by VanWoman84 on Jul 2, 2019 16:44:58 GMT
On site? This one or where you are?
Not good either way.
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Post by itinerantchild on Jul 2, 2019 16:44:58 GMT
Sometimes the friendship has run its course and you have learned what you were supposed to learn from each other and life goes on to new and better things if you let it.
Betrayal does suck from someone close,and it can be a difficult thing to figure out,but if it looks like an irreparable friendship,then cut your losses and stride on.
Most problems with true friend come from a mis understood situation and with good communication on both sides can be sorted out,sometimes they or you are just being a twat. Make sure you know which one is !!
Sorry to hear that you have suffered this cricket and I sincerly hope that it does not stop you from being the true you that we have learned to love.
stay strong and positive,there are many great experiences and friendships to come xx
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Post by bigbear67 on Jul 2, 2019 17:05:03 GMT
Got shit on in the past by every single "friend" I had. They all decided they preferred shagging my wife to being buddies with me. Hurt a lot cos I thought they valued my friendship but obviously they didn't. Left me fucked for a while but eventually made me trust nobody. Now got 1good close mate & a partner who puts up with me, & my hippy mates on here. Everyone else can fuck off, won't get fooled again!....
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Post by yazz on Jul 2, 2019 18:10:50 GMT
That's shit cricket. But you will cope, firstly by removing them as a friend, because your friendship is worth more than that. Why they do it, who knows but they didn't value your friendship, so try not to let it get to you.
I don't have any old friends anymore, they all used me in different ways and was never around when I needed a friend, so they are gone. As I've got older I'm less tolerant, now people get two chances and the third Stike and they are out. I prefer to be alone than be with false friends. I don't trust people easily anymore, I've been shit on far to many times.
Sending you hugs, and I hope you can get over this quickly. x
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Post by cricket on Jul 2, 2019 18:19:36 GMT
On site? This one or where you are? Not good either way. Not on this site.Where I was.Anyone want a voodoo doll?Ive over ordered.  |
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Post by VanWoman84 on Jul 2, 2019 18:22:06 GMT
We do have a Market Place section cricket...
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Post by cricket on Jul 2, 2019 18:27:31 GMT
Sometimes the friendship has run its course and you have learned what you were supposed to learn from each other and life goes on to new and better things if you let it. Betrayal does suck from someone close,and it can be a difficult thing to figure out,but if it looks like an irreparable friendship,then cut your losses and stride on. Most problems with true friend come from a mis understood situation and with good communication on both sides can be sorted out,sometimes they or you are just being a twat. Make sure you know which one is !! Sorry to hear that you have suffered this cricket and I sincerly hope that it does not stop you from being the true you that we have learned to love. stay strong and positive,there are many great experiences and friendships to come xx Thanks IC.Is that an offer of "a great experience"? The "friend"told shooters where to find the secret places I had been protecting while I was away....every time I was away.Money changed hands.I am trying to understand how over so many years I misjudged her so badly.There was no excuse.I am on my 4th voodoo doll.Forgiveness isnt horrible enough for what shes done.  |
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Post by cricket on Jul 2, 2019 18:34:08 GMT
Got shit on in the past by every single "friend" I had. They all decided they preferred shagging my wife to being buddies with me. Hurt a lot cos I thought they valued my friendship but obviously they didn't. Left me fucked for a while but eventually made me trust nobody. Now got 1good close mate & a partner who puts up with me, & my hippy mates on here. Everyone else can fuck off, won't get fooled again!.... So sorry bigbear.Wife and mates all knifing.They didnt deserve you.Some utter scum out there.That happened to me,partner off cheating while i was working away to pay the mortgage.Soul destroying.Remember it is truly their loss in the end.x |
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Post by bigbear67 on Jul 2, 2019 19:32:20 GMT
Made it worse because I was away 6days a week truck driving to feed her & 3 kids, 2 of which weren't mine but I took them all on as my own. Oh well, you live & learn....
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Post by cornishharry on Jul 2, 2019 19:42:37 GMT
yup got that t/shirt, but said nowt until they needed help, then dropped them in the shit, think i make a good friend but can be a nasty enemy
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2019 20:15:31 GMT
`Light a candle send this person love and light.
Write down all the reasons you do not want them in your life anymore and burn it.
Send blessings love and light though.
Its never a good idea to send negativity to them as it will bounce back on you.
People change, their priorities change and sometimes their personalities change.
We all go through massive changes every 7 years too spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and physically.
When I look back on my life I can see I have been on both sides of the coin and im being raw and honest. Ive treated people badly in the past and I justified it to myself at the time or was in denial of how bad I was. Ive also been treated badly too. Ive still got a lot of learning to do a hell of a lot.
As much as many of us want to take the moral high ground we are all capable of being negative towards another.
But its about being raw an open with yourself.
If something doesn't feel right with a person or situation walk away.
Sometimes you have to do that even if you are not sure of why.
Get creative with the negativity too turn it into art work music poetry performance or something you enjoy.
Blessings to you my dear and take deep breaths and meditate.
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Post by cornishharry on Jul 2, 2019 20:32:15 GMT
in other words , trust your gut feeling tis seldom wrong
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Post by cricket on Jul 3, 2019 0:22:50 GMT
yup got that t/shirt, but said nowt until they needed help, then dropped them in the shit, think i make a good friend but can be a nasty enemy You dont come across as a nasty enemy at all Harry.Just someone who lashed out in retaliation when someone trashed you in a terrible way. |
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Post by cricket on Jul 3, 2019 0:29:57 GMT
`Light a candle send this person love and light. Write down all the reasons you do not want them in your life anymore and burn it. Send blessings love and light though. Its never a good idea to send negativity to them as it will bounce back on you. People change, their priorities change and sometimes their personalities change. We all go through massive changes every 7 years too spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and physically. When I look back on my life I can see I have been on both sides of the coin and im being raw and honest. Ive treated people badly in the past and I justified it to myself at the time or was in denial of how bad I was. Ive also been treated badly too. Ive still got a lot of learning to do a hell of a lot. As much as many of us want to take the moral high ground we are all capable of being negative towards another. But its about being raw an open with yourself. If something doesn't feel right with a person or situation walk away. Sometimes you have to do that even if you are not sure of why. Get creative with the negativity too turn it into art work music poetry performance or something you enjoy. Blessings to you my dear and take deep breaths and meditate. I try to be spiritual Treestump but if I could have a rerun.. when i found out about my partner cheating while i was working to keep us,instead of crying a lot and leaving my home and money,I would tie him up and shove a large Roman Candle in every orifice after i had chopped his balls off,then light a big spliff while he was igniting. |
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