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Post by danann on Jun 19, 2018 0:44:50 GMT
Well If You Had Seen Or Read My Kinda Vent Off About My Sadly Bad Muddling Confusing Day You Might Know Why I Posted This .. Cos I Be Confused And Muddled And Dont Get Why Its Thought Of As Rude Or Unkind Etc Simply To Be Honest And Truthful To Peoples Faces And Not Backs Instead ...And Staying Truthful To Yourself And To Who And What You Are And Your Beliefs And Natural Ways.
So I Ask What Do You Think About This?...
Are You Always Open And Honest To Your Beliefs And Ways?
Is It So Wrong To Ask Or Say To Someones Face ..Why They Not Truthful And Lie And Tell Untruths To Others And Themselves But NOT Ask In A Bad Mean Way But In A Curious Way As To Why They Have To Act And Be That Way Etc.
Because For Say Someone Like Me And My Kind ..We Dont Believe In Telling Untruths/Lies Etc And Being Fake And Plastic And Unreal To Ourselves Or Others Etc.
Because We See No Point Of Lies Cos Why Lie? Whats The Point? Its Not Real Its Not True Etc So Why Lie When You Can Simply Be Truthful So Why Speak False Fake Words?
And Why Not Be You? Why Be Fake And Plastic? Because It Is NOT YOU..So Why Do So Many People Do Not Want To Be Them The Real True Them?
So All Of The Above Is So Strange To Me And My Beliefs
And So Why When You Ask Someone Why They Be That Way Like Untruthful And Not Them Etc It Is Seen As Rude Or Unkind ?
Is It Or Do You Think Now That People Now Have Lost Themselves In Being What They Feel They Have To Be To Fit In And Be Accepted Etc And Be Unteuthful And Fake That Its Just Accepted And Ignored By Others That Its Just Normal To Be Fake And Plastic Etc Now...
And Do You Think The Airwaves/Internet Is To Blame For This Cos Peeps Can Be Anybody And Anything They Want To Be So Easily ..That It Is Also Seen And Accepted As Normal.
And Why Do You Think That Sadly For Many Now In This World Of Man That It Seems Sooo Hard To Be True To Yourself And Others But Yet Sooo Easy To Be Unreal And Untruthful And Fake/Plastic Etc ...Because I Dont Get It Or Understand It At All.
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Post by VanWoman84 on Jun 19, 2018 8:42:28 GMT
Whilst honesty is the best policy, honesty can be misread as rudeness.
So I think it's not if, but how you speak the truth.
Also, it depends how well you know the person who receives the truth.
If you walk up to a total stranger and say "you are fat" it may be the truth but it's also a bit rude.
If a good friend is getting overweight and it's bothering them, saying "it would be good for you to give up crisps", is still truthful. It's not rude though.
Little children will just open their mouths and let the truth tumble out. It doesn't make it less rude than your walking up to the stranger. It's just they need to be taught manners.
If you are an adult and have had that instruction from your elders, but choose to ignore it, then it's likely to be seen as rude.
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Post by danann on Jun 19, 2018 9:19:43 GMT
Thankyou Vanwoman84 For Replying:)
I Can Understand The Rudeness Of How Some Peeps Are And Be Cos They Choose To Be That Way And Be Unkind And Mean Because
I Would Never Ever Walk Up To Somebody And Say "They Were Fat Or They Were Uggly Etc Etc Etc " As That Sooo Not Nice And Very Cruel And Unkind Etc.
When This Happened This Woman Who All Eve Was Firing Questions At Me All Nitez.. Like Why Am I So White?..Why Do I Talk Strange And Look Strange Etc Etc..Why Do I Wear Clothes Like That..Do I Belong And Live In A Hippy Commune ..Am I A Foreigner And That I Am Very Odd Etc Etc Each Time She Say It She Had A Face Of A Hyena And A Giggle To Match After Each Question She Asked Me ..And Followed By The Words "Sorry I Dont Mean To Be Rude But Your So Strange" And I Really Like You So Im Only Asking !!!!
So Me Being Me Answered All Her Questions As I Thought She Did Like Me And Wanted To Learn About Me Etc..
It Was When I Walked Away She Then Started Saying "Ohhhh Myyy What Planet Does She Come From ...And Who Let Her Out Etc Etc .
So Off Course I Stopped And Turned Around And Walked Back To Table And Sat Back Down And Then Simply Asked
"Why Do You Be Fake And Plastic And Unreal" And Not Be Your True Self" ...Why Lie And Tell Untruths To Me? Cos There Be No Need To Be Untrue To Yourself And Others..Just Be Truthful Instead Of Being Plastic And Fake..
Thats When She Got Up And Walked Away And The Others At Table Giggled And Say They Could Not Believe I Say That Etc Etc ..I Did Not Get At First Why They Could Not Believe It Cos It Was The Truth She Say She Like Me To My Face And Wanted To Get To Know Me With All Her Questions Which As Said I Answered Even Though I Wiggle Uncomfortable And Felt Awkward ..Then She To My Back Says Unkind Mean Things About Me ...So I Simply Asked WHY ..Not Out Of Hate Anger Or Meanness But Truly To Understand Why Peeps Do That Etc Cos I Dont Get Why They Have To Do That If You Dont Like Somebody Then Dont Play You Do You Just Dont Be With Them Or Talk To Them Its Simple As That ..
But Obviously To Some They Dont Do That They Just Lie And Be Fake And It Does Seem As You Say "The Truth Hurts Them" Cos They Cannot Take The Truth They Walk Away From It ..If That Kinda Makes Sense What Happened To Me Last Nitez.
And Why My True Good Friend There Say To Me "D Its Hard For Peeps To Be Told Truth..In Such A Blunt But Innocent Way You Do And Did It.
But She Knows Me Well And Knows I Never Be Hurtful Or Rude And Mean And Never Ask Things Or Say Things In A Rude Mean Way To Hurt Peoples Feelings Etc..
Like I Said I Would Never Say To Anybody They Fat Or Too Skinny Or Uggly Etc Etc I Only Ask To Learn Things With A Good Heart And Kindness Even If The Person Is Or Has Been Unkind To Me ..
Simply Because I Have Manners And Be Polite And Kind To Everyone And Wont Let Them Or This World Of Mans People Change Me Into One Of Them..."The Plastics" As I See Them Sort Of People Who We Bump Into Along The Way And The Flip Floppers Too".
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Post by VanWoman84 on Jun 19, 2018 9:44:39 GMT
Ah I get it now. This was somebody who asked you nicely about you, then behind your back asked what planet you are from.
Yes I see. In many ways worse than somebody JUST talking behind your back.
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Post by danann on Jun 19, 2018 10:11:03 GMT
Ah I get it now. This was somebody who asked you nicely about you, then behind your back asked what planet you are from. Yes I see. In many ways worse than somebody JUST talking behind your back. Yeah That Be Sooo True Vanwoman Sadly  And Why I Just Simply Not Be Understanding And So Muddled As Why Some Peeps Are Like That Cos If You Do Not Like Somebody Etc Then Dont Play Pretend You And Dont To Try To Make Them Look Stupid Or A Joke Etc Etc . Its Simple To Me And Most People We Avoid Evade Etc Peeps We Not Be Liking We Dont Pretend We Do. Because To Me Its Sooo Simple ..Like.. I Dont Like Fish Or The Smell Of Fish... So I Would NOT Eat It Or Smell It Or Be Around It Its Soooo Simple. And Thats How I Live And Be I Live Simply ..Think Simply And Trurhfully To Myself And Others....See Easy Peasy Simples hahahaha:) |
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Post by VanWoman84 on Jun 19, 2018 10:17:50 GMT
I struggle to be nice to people I don't like too. Sadly in businees and life, sometimes you can't avoid them.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2018 12:30:01 GMT
Danann, it may help you to remember that people mock what they fear, and they fear that which they don't know or understand.
You should never be hurt by another person's reaction, because it is nothing to do with your world and everything to do with theirs. It is an uncomfortable feeling when somebody reacts badly, but it is their reaction and dependent on what they have experienced and learned; although it feels personal to you it is actually nothing to do with you at all.
You live in a happy world, as far as I can see. Other peoples' shadows are just that, shadows, and they will fade under your sun.
Keep bouncing and blow some bubbles, wish them happiness, then forget them.
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Post by VanWoman84 on Jun 19, 2018 12:32:03 GMT
Some good advice there corvus!
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Post by NomadCris on Jun 19, 2018 13:21:05 GMT
Ive always been direct and matter of fact with people,sometimes they dont like it or feel im rude and abrupt or ascerbic but truth hurts and truth is only thing that matters.
I do try to be diplomatic but sometimes subtle diplomacy is far too subtle for them to grasp or they refuse to accept my view because theyre too uncomfortable with how it presents them as a contradiction of their own view of themselves, people dont like that but thats not my problem.
It doesnt happen so often now but I used to have lots of guys say to me 'I like you youre a really nice guy but why do you have to be gay' and ive usually answered 'for the same reason youre an idiot,I was born like it,the only difference is I cant change how my body works but you can change how you mind works'
Often theyve got pretty offended and sulky but usually theyve come back to me days later and apologised.
Often confronting people and their narrow view of life opens their mind to the possibility theyre wrong and makes them think-which is good- but at the end of the day I dont care what they think,if their opinions wont change or I dont like their deep seated views i dont keep them in my life.
I had a couple who were very good friends who i respected for years until one summer party of theirs they got pretty drunk and went on a vile religious based homophobic rant about gays should be crucified and burned and I left their party. Apart from a weak attempt at apology from them a few days later during which i told them both to fuck off ive never spoken to or seen them since.
You have to draw lines as to whats acceptable to you in life and sometimes people cross them and you have to deal with it.
Maybe they wont like how you deal with it but life is quite simple when you strip away all the bullshit.
Youre here to live YOUR life how YOU want not someone elses life or by their personal values.As Ive always said to people,I am me take it or leave it,I need to explain to no one who i am or why and your permission or approval is not required,if you cant take the truth,don't ask the questions as you may not like the answer you get.
Youre a beautiful person Danann,inside and out,no one can take that from you.
You owe no one any explanations so dont waste your time giving any and dont let people into your mind and undermine who you are just because youre different to them.
Often they dont really want to know your opinions or all about you,theyre just seeking opportunities to humiliate you, get inside your head and bring down your self confidence.
Some folk take a dislike to you for no good reason and theres nothing you can do to change their mind so dont try.The problem is theirs and within them, not you or yours.
Keep being you,its all that matters x
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Post by danann on Jun 19, 2018 14:04:42 GMT
I struggle to be nice to people I don't like too. Sadly in businees and life, sometimes you can't avoid them. Yes ..Sadly That Defo Seems To Be True Sometimes You Just Will Bumps Into Them Along The Way Vanwoman84. |
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Post by devon on Jun 19, 2018 19:22:01 GMT
I can't imagine anybody ever being mean to Dannan. How can you not love Dannan?
If it helps in anyway... which it won't... I wouldn't take no notice of them sweetheart. You are adorable & I am sure you have many true friends. You are one of the lucky ones.
Peeps are just peeps. It's best not to have any high expectations. The majority would crap from a great height on their own grandmother if they thought it would benefit them.
Don't let it muddy your clear bouncy waters. You are perfect as you are.
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Post by danann on Jun 19, 2018 19:54:00 GMT
Danann, it may help you to remember that people mock what they fear, and they fear that which they don't know or understand. You should never be hurt by another person's reaction, because it is nothing to do with your world and everything to do with theirs. It is an uncomfortable feeling when somebody reacts badly, but it is their reaction and dependent on what they have experienced and learned; although it feels personal to you it is actually nothing to do with you at all. You live in a happy world, as far as I can see. Other peoples' shadows are just that, shadows, and they will fade under your sun. Keep bouncing and blow some bubbles, wish them happiness, then forget them. Awwww Bless You Corvus Your A Kind Beautiful Real Being Who I Lovezzz To Bit HEHEHE:)) And You Be Right Too That Sadly Peeps Do Mock What They Fear And Also They Fear What They Not Understand As Well . And Yes They Have There Own Feelings And Own Readons Why They Be The Way They Are That Makes Them Mean And Mock Peeps As Yes They Be The Problem And Not Meez  Thankyou For Your Great Advice xx |
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Post by danann on Jun 19, 2018 20:17:02 GMT
Ive always been direct and matter of fact with people,sometimes they dont like it or feel im rude and abrupt or ascerbic but truth hurts and truth is only thing that matters. I do try to be diplomatic but sometimes subtle diplomacy is far too subtle for them to grasp or they refuse to accept my view because theyre too uncomfortable with how it presents them as a contradiction of their own view of themselves, people dont like that but thats not my problem. It doesnt happen so often now but I used to have lots of guys say to me 'I like you youre a really nice guy but why do you have to be gay' and ive usually answered 'for the same reason youre an idiot,I was born like it,the only difference is I cant change how my body works but you can change how you mind works' Often theyve got pretty offended and sulky but usually theyve come back to me days later and apologised. Often confronting people and their narrow view of life opens their mind to the possibility theyre wrong and makes them think-which is good- but at the end of the day I dont care what they think,if their opinions wont change or I dont like their deep seated views i dont keep them in my life. I had a couple who were very good friends who i respected for years until one summer party of theirs they got pretty drunk and went on a vile religious based homophobic rant about gays should be crucified and burned and I left their party. Apart from a weak attempt at apology from them a few days later during which i told them both to fuck off ive never spoken to or seen them since. You have to draw lines as to whats acceptable to you in life and sometimes people cross them and you have to deal with it. Maybe they wont like how you deal with it but life is quite simple when you strip away all the bullshit. Youre here to live YOUR life how YOU want not someone elses life or by their personal values.As Ive always said to people,I am me take it or leave it,I need to explain to no one who i am or why and your permission or approval is not required,if you cant take the truth,don't ask the questions as you may not like the answer you get. Youre a beautiful person Danann,inside and out,no one can take that from you. You owe no one any explanations so dont waste your time giving any and dont let people into your mind and undermine who you are just because youre different to them. Often they dont really want to know your opinions or all about you,theyre just seeking opportunities to humiliate you, get inside your head and bring down your self confidence. Some folk take a dislike to you for no good reason and theres nothing you can do to change their mind so dont try.The problem is theirs and within them, not you or yours. Keep being you,its all that matters x Yes You Be Sooooo Right NomadiCris Peeps Do Think That Peeps Like You Meez And Others Can Seem Rude Etc But Its Not Being Rude Its Being Truthful And Honest Usually In A Reply Where They Have Been Rude Or Unkind To A Question Or Thought They Have Asked Us So We And Peeps Like Us Always Answer Truthfully And Honestly Which They Then See Or Think Is Rude ..But We Not Being Rude Cos WE Know And Understand What Rude Means And We Are Not We Just Being Truthful In Our Thoughts Our Ways And Our Beliefs Etc And I Find It Strange Even That When They Have Been Rude..Disrespectful And Unkind To Us In Asking Us Or Sayimg Rude And Offensive Questions To Us That When We Do Reply They Cannot Accept Etc. I Be Very Sorry To Hear And See Such Uggly Cruel Mean Words And Thoughts To You NomadiCris About Your Lifestyle Your Beautiful Two Spirits/Gay You Be Gifted With Just Like My Son For He Be Gifted With Two Beautiful Spirits/Gay As Well And Sadly Like You Be Too So Called Friends Down The Line Outta The Blue Come Out With Such Cruel Mean Things And He Just Like You Tells Them Straightly And Pointly To The Jolly Bluntness What He Thinks Of That And Anybody As He Sees He Has No Problem It Be Others That Have The Problem As He Happy In His Own Beautiful Skin Like You Too NomadiCris Have Beautiful Skin Too  And It Be True Too NomadiCris Some Peeps Will Never Like Me For No Reason Or Cause As Thats The Way They Be Yes I Never Will Understand Why Some Peeps Are That Way And I Will Never Understand That ...But Hey I Say They Can All Bounce And Blow Away For Nobody Man Woman Or Any Being Will Ever Change Me Or Turn Me Into A Mans World People ...So I Just Giggle And Dance Away Waving My Hands In The Air Like I Just Dont Care HAHAHAHA. Thankyou For Your Kind Words And Sharing Your Thoughts Too ..And Remember Too NomadiCris Because You Are True To You And Always You To Meez And Many You Are Beautiful Inside And Outside And Paint Like Me In Colour Not Black And White So Bounce Snd Be Happy And Smile Always Beautiful You:)) xx |
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Post by danann on Jun 19, 2018 21:57:41 GMT
I can't imagine anybody ever being mean to Dannan. How can you not love Dannan? If it helps in anyway... which it won't... I wouldn't take no notice of them sweetheart. You are adorable & I am sure you have many true friends. You are one of the lucky ones. Peeps are just peeps. It's best not to have any high expectations. The majority would crap from a great height on their own grandmother if they thought it would benefit them. Don't let it muddy your clear bouncy waters. You are perfect as you are. Awwww Thanks Devon ..But Yep Me ..You..Anybody Seems Fair Hunting To These Sort Of Peeps Cos As Vanwoman84 Says Somwtimes In Life You Cannot Avoid Them They Just Popp Up Near You Or By You Or With You Sadly:( And To Be Honest I Do Not Have Many True Friends You Can Count Them On One Hand As I Find It Hard To Be Around Peeps Cos I Awkward And Fidgety And Shy So The Few True Friends I Have I Have Known Many Years From When I Escaped My Guilded Cage And Once Again Was Free. Cos As My Friends Say...D Your Too Trusting Cos Your So Childlike You Just Accept And Believe That People Are Friendly And Trusting You Give Your All So Openly Accepting Of All And Just Give Your Hand Freely And Openly To Them Like Your Trust Just Like A Child Does But Sadly Thats Why When Some Not All As Not All People Are Bad And Unkind Eyc..But When Those Few Do Hurt And Betray You And Are Unkind Just Like A Child You Feel It Deeply Because You Never Can Understand Why They Be That Way For No Reason And Be So Mean And That Then Makes Your Heart Heavy For A While But Then Just Like A Child You Forget And Bounce Off Happily hahahaha ...Yep Thats What They Say Devon ...Which In Truth I Am Very Childlike And Playful And Hypo But Then Thats How Me And My Kind Are Like As Age Etc Is Just A Number It Does Not Show And Tell Who We Are HAHAHAHA. So Thankyou For Your Kind Words And Thoughts On This Sort Of Peeps Who As You Say Would Poops From A Great Height...Ewww I Be Not Wanting To Be Ne ar Or UNDER One Of Them Splat Splat Pooper Peeps HAHAHA:) You Be Happy And Smiley Too Devon And Duck And Runnnn If You Bump Into A Pooper Peoples HAHAHA |
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Post by NomadCris on Jun 19, 2018 22:29:25 GMT
People attack others mostly because they have their own personal insecurities or problems and attacking other people means they dont have to address their own issues.
Usually its motivated by jealousy or fear or some stupid perception that youre a threat to them or cleverer than them or youre better at your job than them or simply because youre happier than they are.
Non of it matters though.
Most of these people we hardly know or may never have met face to face but they get under our skin and make us feel unhappy or angry...for what?
If we had never met or spoken to them face to face or online would we feel that way?
Of course not,just as we would not be feeling bad if we had not seen something awful on the tv ...theyve only got under our skin or made us feel bad because we've allowed them into our head and spend too much time trying to work out what we did wrong...when in fact we've done nothing wrong...but theyve won a little victory because theyve made us feel bad.
Whoopee doos...dont let them inside your head,they dont matter.Plenty of sad people about who enjoy making folks feel bad cause theyre too weak to address their own issues that make them sad.
Only thing you/we can do in life is be the best at everything you/we do and be the best person you/we can be.If people dont like that,thats not our problem,its theirs.
The sun dont care where it shines its light,it just shines on everything,thats all that you need do.
If they dont like how bright you are they can go buy sunglasses... Who cares. 😎
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And Why I Just Simply Not Be Understanding And So Muddled As Why Some Peeps Are Like That
