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Post by fenrisulfr on Apr 22, 2018 16:58:50 GMT
We can't see the future but we have the past and it can have pain. What regrets do you have if any, can they be rectified or eased or do you let them hang like a millstone, do you ever talk about them and if so does that make them easier?
I've got quite a few and what is done is done but every so often I remember.
Not telling the old man how much I loved and admired him before he popped off and I had to ID his body, not being there or doing more with the kids, not being harder or more helpful on my wayward eldest, not working harder at school (hated the place) and many more...........
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2018 18:04:41 GMT
I think acceptance and forgiveness for all that you have done or not done, is the only logical thing to do, as we cannot change our past at all.
That being said, it isn't always easy. If we are in a dark place, finding ourselves dwelling on something we wish had been different can be mental agony, so learning some kind of meditation technique can be very helpful.
I dont want to forget my past, it made me who I am now; but I don't want to miss my present because I'm dwelling on what went wrong and beating myself up over it.
Peace
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2018 18:29:19 GMT
I don't have regrets.Yeah I've done alot of stuff,made decisions etc but....I made those happen because at that time I went with how I felt,the knowledge I had at that time.
Fen I'm sure with all thats happened to you hon,you did the same as me right?You can't change anything in the past.My advice,if you feel upset re whats happened,or what you should of done etc,re focus on the present moment.We all have painful memories.Best not to dwell on them.Know you did the best you could at that time.xoxox
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2018 15:15:31 GMT
I don't really do regrets , they are a negative thing , learn from your mistakes when you realise they were mistakes , I have made plenty and they are good lessons too ! . I just try to live in the here and now as much as I can . I think the only thing I dont learn a lesson from is hangovers , and they definatly get worse the older you get ! Think this song sums it up  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2018 15:22:00 GMT
My only regret is my career path was a fuck up. I am a great natural mathematician, so I did business and finance at college.
Except I don’t give a shit about money, least of all anyone else’s. And stupidly the college I went to did courses in aviation, mechanics and cabinet making. Any of them would have been my interests.
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Post by EcoBob on Apr 23, 2018 17:43:07 GMT
I try not to have regrets , life's too short to dwell on the negatives, especially those that cannot be changed.
Yes I've done silly things in the past that I wouldn't do now but, at the time I thought they were justified.
It's funny how the past can come back to haunt us and affect our future but we shouldn't let it, it can't be changed.
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Post by duckman on Apr 26, 2018 21:41:17 GMT
My only regret is my career path was a fuck up. I am a great natural mathematician, so I did business and finance at college. Except I don’t give a shit about money, least of all anyone else’s. And stupidly the college I went to did courses in aviation, mechanics and cabinet making. Any of them would have been my interests. So was mine. My whole upbringing was completely wrong . Normal people consider procrastination and laziness to be vices but we were taught these were virtues. I was talked into spending an extra year at school even though I was not doing very well at school. After that I did two years at Slough college. When I finished there I got a bread & butter job a Reading University cooking for students just so I could buy some nice clothes. By he time I was 20 I had a mediocre CV when I could have had two years 5 star experience under my belt, I was working under people who were my age. So I left for Australia. If you want to be a mechanic, I have known at least two guys who were self taught, did a few courses and got accredited. The main demand for cabinet makers is new kitchens. The market for new furniture is pretty tough. Maybe do it as a hobby? A book I can recommend on woodworking is The Encyclopedia of Wood Working Techniques by Jeremy Broun , Simon & Schuster. This is written in a clear down to earth no-nonsense style. In my local library there is woodworking book from Paul Hamlyn that has bigger and more pages, but has far less useful information in it. |
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