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Post by cricket on Dec 5, 2019 11:52:21 GMT
Being a hermit you have no one else to blame other than for the reason you became a hermit maybe ? wow you just summed up my life in one line Um Bungo.  |
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Post by cornishharry on Dec 5, 2019 12:25:17 GMT
i can go weeks even months sometimes without actually seeing or speaking to people, as a neighbour once said, we only know if your here when your truck is here. in the main people en mass piss me off, am not a team player and although probably many disagree i like me
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Post by bernie on Dec 5, 2019 23:05:19 GMT
I couldn't do without other people. Although they drive me to distraction on occasions and infuriate me on others. Solitude to me is not fulfilling except as a "time out".
I don't think I could exist long term without a "love interest" although to be honest that never seems to have been a problem. I seem to connect very easily with women without having to try.
Men friends on the other hand seem harder. My old mates are dying like flies, mostly lifestyle excesses catching up.
Life on your own is hard, whatever you say publicly, do you not harbour doubts?
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Post by cornishharry on Dec 6, 2019 0:24:24 GMT
getting a love interest is not a problem but keeping my interest is, unlike you i go for quality not quantity.
if i had doubts about my lifestyle i would change it
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Post by cricket on Dec 6, 2019 1:05:31 GMT
getting a love interest is not a problem but keeping my interest is, unlike you i go for quality not quantity. if i had doubts about my lifestyle i would change it oooh are you suggesting Bernie is a floozy?  is this going to end in handbags at dawn.popcorn at the ready folks. |
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Post by fenrisulfr on Dec 6, 2019 7:48:18 GMT
I've always had an interest in Sino Jap culture and women since meeting a Jap lady who did excellent physio on my back years ago and joined a Chinese dating site out of curiosity some time back, free and safe at a distance as I'll never go there. Got the occasional PM and nothing more. Yesterday the site offered me free membership of their sistersite,'Asian dating' at the press of a button. My inbox exploded after one visit with peeps from 20 - early 50s from Phills and Thais mainly.
As Harry says, quality over quantity.
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Post by danann on Dec 6, 2019 9:54:33 GMT
Being a hermit to most people means being
At Least 100years Or More!!
Live In A Mountain Cave Or Forest Cave !!
Have A Mahoosive Long Beard And Tall Cane/Staff !!
Be A Man “As I Don’t think They Picture Or Believe A Hermit Can Be A Woman As Well !!
Be Very Very Wise !!
Yep that’s what most people picture in there heads or believe what a Hermit Is hahahahaha;)
I think they been watching toooo much Lord Of The Rings hehehehe
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Post by bernie on Dec 6, 2019 17:28:43 GMT
getting a love interest is not a problem but keeping my interest is, unlike you i go for quality not quantity. if i had doubts about my lifestyle i would change it oooh are you suggesting Bernie is a floozy? is this going to end in handbags at dawn.popcorn at the ready folks. You sussed me out at last Cricket |
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Post by bernie on Dec 6, 2019 17:40:44 GMT
Being a hermit to most people means being At Least 100years Or More!! Live In A Mountain Cave Or Forest Cave !! Have A Mahoosive Long Beard And Tall Cane/Staff !! Be A Man “As I Don’t think They Picture Or Believe A Hermit Can Be A Woman As Well !! Be Very Very Wise !! Yep that’s what most people picture in there heads or believe what a Hermit Is hahahahaha;) I think they been watching toooo much Lord Of The Rings hehehehe Being a hermit implied a religious or at least a spiritual need underlying their life of solitude. The female equivalent tended to be a witch but without the negative connotations surrounding the term in later years. The assumption in both cases was that they had powers not shared by the rest of us |
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Post by itinerantchild on Dec 6, 2019 18:07:42 GMT
I have spent a lot of beautiful time enjoying solitude in out there places and am happy not to see people for decent lenghs of time,however do not want to be so out there that I am scary to others and start losing my mind.
Hermitism is a great pace to go to whe you want it,but personally I think for good health of ones mind that it is good to raise ones head above the hermits trench from time to time to remember and see that there are many beautiful aspects to experience within a community. It can be the food they make,the idea'sbthey have,the music and stories they share or even the odd drinky poo's
Most people who I have come across no matter where in the world who have a fuck society attitude and a fuck others attitude often end up gettin fucked by others and society because they are not being amiable ( I thik I can use that in english ) friendly towards others so that reflects back to themselves.
In my humble opinion based on Three decades of nomadic life with lots of solitude to help me understand and appreciate and even love myself I would say that being completely in society and completely outside of society can be as bad as each other and I personally think that if you are not on a completely spiritual trip and need that dose of hermistism to complete your search then being that far out there is not good for oneself as it means cutting off from many of lifes pleasures and why should one live with hardship !
I know its horses for courses, though if I was to add to this debate with a touch of self learned wisdom,I would say that being on the edge of society is almost certainly the best place to be where one can delve into the beauty of both sides of the coin and appreciate the pleasures that are available from both sides.
Just my two cents worth xx
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Post by cricket on Dec 6, 2019 20:57:42 GMT
Ever the prodigal son who dines on the best fatted calf is a good place to be.You are in a good place IC and a seemingly good human soul.Life is however easier when a person doesnt ever stay anywhere long enough to get irritating or reveal their completeness of character.It is also easier to visit only, because everyone is all on their best behaviour in a forever welcom loop.Its good when a person is happy with their life,but edging towards being an apostle carries halo strangulation risks.  |
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Post by valdez on Dec 7, 2019 21:32:08 GMT
being a hermit can be the worst thing that can happen in your later life according to age concern i,m not to bad on my own but do like some company i went to a party in a pub last week a small room with to many people in it wanted to leave but met up with an old pal so ended up doing some catch up
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Post by history on Dec 8, 2019 21:52:50 GMT
Not so much a hermit
But do look forward to my little retreat space.
Almost dont like people coming to visit me,if I am home i want to be alone
Hope this makes sense
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Post by givingitsomethought on Dec 9, 2019 9:28:26 GMT
Not so much a hermit But do look forward to my little retreat space. Almost dont like people coming to visit me,if I am home i want to be alone Hope this makes sense Can be stressful having people round. I've got a friend who just magically gets everything done when she comes to visit. Last time she stayed I went upstairs to sort something out for my son, came back down and she'd washed up, brought the washing in and tidied up the lounge, whilst making a cup of tea  She's a good visitor But yes, I'm quite picky about who I want round as well, I get to a point where I can't talk anymore and I need a bit of peace |
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Post by givingitsomethought on Dec 9, 2019 9:30:46 GMT
being a hermit can be the worst thing that can happen in your later life according to age concern i,m not to bad on my own but do like some company i went to a party in a pub last week a small room with to many people in it wanted to leave but met up with an old pal so ended up doing some catch up I think it depends on a lot of things, doesn't it, if you're lonely and missing someone it will have a different effect on you than if you've decided you want a bit of peace and quiet and are looking forward to not seeing anyone for a week. It can be difficult when you're older to get out and about, especially if you have transport and/or health issues. Just not easy to do, and it's nice if someone cares enough about you to make the effort to pop round. Different circumstances, isn't it, for everyone. Nice that you caught up with your old friend, Valdez, it's good to catch up with people once in a while. |
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is this going to end in handbags at dawn.popcorn at the ready folks.
She's a good visitor