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Post by patchypete on Sept 21, 2021 17:39:11 GMT
And I will not be drinking tonight
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Post by graceomalley on Sept 21, 2021 17:52:09 GMT
Lovely pete..these times are to be treasured..love and hugs to you and yours💜
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Post by VanWoman84 on Sept 21, 2021 17:57:00 GMT
Well done patchypete, you are lucky to have those precious moments. Well done for getting back on the wagon too
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Post by itinerantchild on Sept 21, 2021 18:05:22 GMT
Today Dad phoned last night worried about his garage. Went and gave him a hand to repair it today. While there hospital phoned they want him in tommorrow to see what they can do if anything. He may be staying in, an emotional time for all 🙁 Managed to get 5 minutes alone with him before we came home, he was scared and frightened for mum. I said things to him that should have been said years ago, I apologised for the way I had acted as a young man, the trouble with police, the arguments, the shame I bought to their door, he just shrugged and said, “ you been a bloody good son” I said, “ that’s cos I had a bloody good dad “ I promised he would be looked after, mum also, told him I loved him, he held my hand in both of his with tears in our eyes. A very touching moment So glad I said those things to him. That is beautiful Pete. You will have that memory for the rest of your life :-) I had a similar moment with my step dad when he was very ill and was so glad that I got to tell him much the same as you told your dad. It meant a lot to me and him as he was always like my dad. Am sure that it will have been a huge moment for you and your dad too. Well done for making it happen xxxx
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Post by patchypete on Sept 21, 2021 19:14:36 GMT
Today Dad phoned last night worried about his garage. Went and gave him a hand to repair it today. While there hospital phoned they want him in tommorrow to see what they can do if anything. He may be staying in, an emotional time for all 🙁 Managed to get 5 minutes alone with him before we came home, he was scared and frightened for mum. I said things to him that should have been said years ago, I apologised for the way I had acted as a young man, the trouble with police, the arguments, the shame I bought to their door, he just shrugged and said, “ you been a bloody good son” I said, “ that’s cos I had a bloody good dad “ I promised he would be looked after, mum also, told him I loved him, he held my hand in both of his with tears in our eyes. A very touching moment So glad I said those things to him. That is beautiful Pete. You will have that memory for the rest of your life :-) I had a similar moment with my step dad when he was very ill and was so glad that I got to tell him much the same as you told your dad. It meant a lot to me and him as he was always like my dad. Am sure that it will have been a huge moment for you and your dad too. Well done for making it happen xxxx Exactly IC, it was a huge moment shared by just the two of us, the holding of hands and the tears, said more than a thousand words could. I told him it’s not goodbye, it’s “ see you later “
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2021 6:48:32 GMT
We went to buy a seat to use for materials to repair my white transit's driver's seat. It's a mint single minibus seat so the seat pad and cover will swap over. I have sewn up the original twice and it's getting out of shape! sympathies VW - I did some repairs on BBs van seat using foam sections cut from a trashed seat and then heaps of glue and serious heavy duty fabric and waxed cotton/linen thread using curved upholstery needles (2 of which I broke in the process) - but it worked - if a 24 stone bear can sit on a repair for months and it doesn't move, you know anything is possible :0). If you're ever in the area - we could mebbe offer assist. Could do wi a central parking up and meeting site for such get togethers. I wonder if a co-operative venture for buying a small piece of terra with a toilet block/water supply and solar - plenty of parking space and a decent firepit space for gathering/cooking and sharing - might be a go-er ....... just allowing my mind to go dreaming of utopia again - not apologising though :0)
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2021 6:58:27 GMT
And I will not be drinking tonight sometimes, when you have not been allowed to be your real self, drinking is the thing which enables you to lower your fear enough to actually express heart feelings (unfortunately it's also a toxic brew that rapidly sends you hurtling towards negative behaviour and thinking) - so it's a double edged sword.
The sufis use alcohol for spiritual purposes, wish we lesser mortals could do the same. Upshot is, best not to make judgements for good or ill - everything is possible, good out of bad, bad out of good ... just keep doing your best, allowing your feelings, daring to share your feelings and simply accepting yourself ........ feel for you n yours, glad there is some mebbe long overdue sharing happening, often we find it's too late (happened to me when our dad got prostate cancer, he were gone with no opportunity to mend fences) - so you're doing well man, big love, all the best x
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Post by patchypete on Sept 22, 2021 7:24:59 GMT
Bad night sleep wise, thinking of my dad, the devil was calling with the promise of a deep sleep if I would partake in a drink with him. I settled for a sleepless night and sobriety
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Post by VanWoman84 on Sept 22, 2021 9:26:44 GMT
Well done Pete. Keep strong for your dad.
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Post by VanWoman84 on Sept 22, 2021 9:32:00 GMT
We went to buy a seat to use for materials to repair my white transit's driver's seat. It's a mint single minibus seat so the seat pad and cover will swap over. I have sewn up the original twice and it's getting out of shape! sympathies VW - I did some repairs on BBs van seat using foam sections cut from a trashed seat and then heaps of glue and serious heavy duty fabric and waxed cotton/linen thread using curved upholstery needles (2 of which I broke in the process) - but it worked - if a 24 stone bear can sit on a repair for months and it doesn't move, you know anything is possible :0). If you're ever in the area - we could mebbe offer assist. Could do wi a central parking up and meeting site for such get togethers. I wonder if a co-operative venture for buying a small piece of terra with a toilet block/water supply and solar - plenty of parking space and a decent firepit space for gathering/cooking and sharing - might be a go-er ....... just allowing my mind to go dreaming of utopia again - not apologising though :0) Thanks! I am pretty sure that the seat pad and cover swap will be simple, but the seat has to come out to refit. Vanman's van seat repair will be more complex. I have to unpick the old seat material from my van to make a pattern. Then I will know where to cut the twin seat material up.
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Post by graceomalley on Sept 22, 2021 11:46:02 GMT
Today is post holiday washing,shopping,weeding round the van,how much can it grow in 2 weeks?..shopping for gardening goods to make it easier.sciatica sucks at the mo,it can fek orf!its not going to stop me..back on FB,to catch up.not missed all the negativity,especially on private chat groups that are supposed to be supportive and helpful(these are supposed to be friends)..so injecting a bit of silliness and frivolity,if that dont do the trick it ll be bye bye from me.theres enough shite in the world at the mo..il support and help,but doom and glooms not my mate😊
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Post by marsh on Sept 22, 2021 12:17:09 GMT
patchypete I had a chance to mend some badly broken fences with my own father. Those times are amongst my most treasured memories. I'm pleased for you that you have been able to experience something similar. Some of you may know that I lived with him for his final eight years. That gave us a lot of time to talk. On his final night I kept vigil with him all night holding his hand and talking to him. It felt like such a privilege. At about 3am he opened his eyes for the first time in several days looked straight at me and said, "We did all right, didn't we." Those were the last words he said. It happened more than ten years ago now and still brings tears to my eyes when I think about it.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2021 16:20:25 GMT
Yo sup there! How are you doing so far with your day? Today, just playing some games on my Switch before hitting the sack tonight.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2021 17:42:57 GMT
sympathies VW - I did some repairs on BBs van seat using foam sections cut from a trashed seat and then heaps of glue and serious heavy duty fabric and waxed cotton/linen thread using curved upholstery needles (2 of which I broke in the process) - but it worked - if a 24 stone bear can sit on a repair for months and it doesn't move, you know anything is possible :0). If you're ever in the area - we could mebbe offer assist. Could do wi a central parking up and meeting site for such get togethers. I wonder if a co-operative venture for buying a small piece of terra with a toilet block/water supply and solar - plenty of parking space and a decent firepit space for gathering/cooking and sharing - might be a go-er ....... just allowing my mind to go dreaming of utopia again - not apologising though :0) Thanks! I am pretty sure that the seat pad and cover swap will be simple, but the seat has to come out to refit. Vanman's van seat repair will be more complex. I have to unpick the old seat material from my van to make a pattern. Then I will know where to cut the twin seat material up. Sound VW, feels like you have it under control - sending you best wishes and a following wind behind your scissors and thread :0) x
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Post by patchypete on Sept 22, 2021 19:07:27 GMT
patchypete I had a chance to mend some badly broken fences with my own father. Those times are amongst my most treasured memories. I'm pleased for you that you have been able to experience something similar. Some of you may know that I lived with him for his final eight years. That gave us a lot of time to talk. On his final night I kept vigil with him all night holding his hand and talking to him. It felt like such a privilege. At about 3am he opened his eyes for the first time in several days looked straight at me and said, "We did all right, didn't we." Those were the last words he said. It happened more than ten years ago now and still brings tears to my eyes when I think about it. Thankyou for sharing that, emotional and beautiful x
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